Pain

Do not let pain cause you to suffer, because then you have deal with both pain and suffering. The pain is real, the suffering is not. Accept the pain and the suffering will disappear, leaving only the pain to deal with. If the pain is physical in time it too will disappear as you heal. If the pain remains, at least your tolerance to it will increase.

If the pain is one of depression, then it is different, the suffering goes hand in hand with the pain. It is the person’s own thoughts that cause the pain and suffering. Practice mediation, (Not thinking.) engage in creative endeavors, exercise. Anything to distract one from thinking.

Writing is wonderful therapy, because one is taking their thoughts and getting them outside of their mind. (Writing the shit out, as I call it.) Sometimes those thoughts will then stay out. Save these writings, in a journal, or computer file, when you read them again the problems will seem less important.

In time there will be less and less problems to write about. When one runs out of problems to write about, it could lead to the end of the problems. If one writes about the serious problems first, the ones that follow will seem trivial by comparison. In time they will all seem less important.

If you are a depressed older person, think back to when you were happy, and know that before the pain you were, and after the pain you will remain. The pain is transient, you are not.

If you are a depressed young person, take it from an old person, it does get better as you age. In fact, if part of your depression is caused by people your own age, seek out some older people to talk to, they will be less judgmental, and more likely to accept you for who you are.

Lastly, if your depression is so bad that you are thinking of suicide, don’t do it. Get help. I have managed to live my life into old age, and I still have much I need to accomplish. So do you. When we die, we will be a long time dead. To bring it on before it is time is not the answer. Death is permanent, depression does not have to be.  

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Comments

[Stephen McAteer]

Thanks Dave.

[Emanuel]

Excellent post

[Adam Wilson]

Thanks dave for such wonderful kind words. I also write on Bike Reviews Hub to motivate cyclists but today I was little tensed due to COVID. But after reading your article, especially "Do not let pain cause you to suffer, because then you have deal with both pain and suffering." I am highly motivated, not to give up.

[Jy]

Amen

[ED]

Wise words, friend. Be well!

[Jason LePree]

Thank you very much Dave for this thoughtful post! Jay