Most people believe in the power of positive thinking.
People with a positive outlook on life tend to lead happier, successful and more fulfilling lives.
The medical profession is now accepting the idea that prayer can help a person sick or injured in their recovery.
Studies have shown that a person with a large group of family and friends praying for their recovery, heal faster than someone without such support. As I see it, a prayer is nothing more than a positive thought, and a positive thought is, in a way, an unspoken prayer.
So if a positive thought or prayer can help heal a sick or injured person, then I believe it is entirely possible that a negative thought caused the illness or accident in the first place.
I always find it interesting and satisfying when I discover something for myself, then find out that great minds have been thinking this way for hundreds of years. William Shakespeare, born over 400 years ago, said in Hamlet:
Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so.
The Bard obviously had grasped the idea that positive and negative thoughts are indeed creative. I should point out that we all have negative thoughts from time to time.
However, it is only when we hold on to that thought and it becomes a firm belief, do we give it power. Negative thoughts need to be replaced with positive ones.
Another thing I have observed in my life, is this: When something tends to annoy me, whatever it is will keep re-occurring. I am talking here of the behavior of others that would appear to be out of my control.
I will give you an example. When I lived in California, whenever I was backing my car out of a parking space, someone would drive behind me at a great rate of speed. I would see someone flash by in my rear view mirror.
This would make me so angry. When backing out of a parking space, most times you cannot see because of other cars parked beside you. All you can do is back up slowly and carefully, and hope that others will have the kindness and consideration to slow and watch out for you.
In 1994 I moved to Eugene, Oregon; traffic there was lighter than California, and parking lots less crowded. However, my almost daily ritual of backing up slowly and someone zooming past behind me at a high rate of speed continued.
I would slam on the brakes, always a little late, because they were gone as quickly as they appeared, sit there and cuss and swear some, then continue backing out slowly.
Then one day I was leaving my apartment building, backing out from the parking lot, and sure enough in my rear view mirror I saw a car go flying past behind me. I began my usually tirade of verbal abuse, then I stopped and turned the engine off and sat there thinking about what had occurred.
This was a quiet private parking lot; there was an alleyway that ran parallel with the street, connecting all the parking lots behind the apartments and houses.
I realized I could sit there for another ten or fifteen minutes before another car passed behind me. What were the chances that a car would pass by at the precise moment I was backing out? I was at a point in my life where I was starting to observe my own thought patterns, and my own behavior.
The next time I was leaving a parking space I remembered this incident and again I thought about the chances that someone would drive by at that moment. I backed slowly out without incident.
Soon after, on occasions I would back out without thinking and sure enough someone would drive behind me. Instead of becoming angry, I would remember I had forgotten to reinforce my actions with a conscious positive thought. Eventually, this occurrence stopped completely. Today I rarely encounter this problem.
I constantly read on bike forums, and other bike blogs, of re-occurring bad experiences some cyclists have while riding. Someone drives too close, honks at them, hurls abuse or even trash. This would appear on the surface to be the behavior of others, over which the individual has no control.
However, if this is happening to you on a regular basis, let me point out there is a common denominator, and that is you. This type of thing rarely happens to me, why should it happen to you?
As an experiment, try this. Be aware of when and where this is happening, is there a pattern? If there is, ask yourself as I did; what are the chances that you encounter a different asshole, in the same place, or under the same circumstances.
Before you ride, reinforce your thoughts with a positive thought that you will not encounter this type of behavior. If it does happen, observe your own thoughts and reaction, and try not to become angry.
The anger is the negativity manifesting itself. There is a subconscious negative thought creating the bad occurrence. Because the event seems to be outside of our control, the negative thought goes undetected and the bad experience re-occurs.
Become an observer of your own thoughts and your reactions to them. Thoughts are creative, learned doctors say so, wise men throughout the ages have said so. Remember although it often appears we have no control over the behavior of others; we always have control over our own thoughts.